Understanding 2 to 3-Year-Old Behaviour
Parenting toddlers can be both a joy and a challenge. During this stage, children are discovering their independence and testing boundaries, which can lead to various behaviours that may be frustrating for parents. Here are some common behaviours exhibited by 2 to 3-year-olds:
- Easily frustrated
- Constantly demanding of mum’s attention
- Active and restless
- Throws tantrums
- Less easily distracted
- Emotionally still very dependent on adults
- Finds sharing difficult
- Cannot wait for things
- Copies the actions of others
- Dislikes attention shown to others by carers
- Unable to express themselves clearly
- Understanding these behaviours can help you respond more effectively. Recognising that your child is still learning to navigate their emotions and the world around them is essential for positive interactions.
Ideas for Managing the Behaviour
While the behaviours of toddlers can be challenging, there are effective strategies to help manage them. Here are some tips for creating a positive environment for both you and your child:
- Saying NO assertively: Go down to your child’s level and keep eye contact. This helps them feel heard and respected while understanding the boundary you’ve set.
- Offer alternatives: Instead of a straightforward “no,” try saying, “Yes, you can have a biscuit after dinner,” or “Yes, we can read a book when you have picked these toys up.” This encourages compliance by presenting options.
- React calmly: Children often take cues from their parents. Staying calm, even in difficult moments, helps your child learn to manage their emotions.
- Praise your child: When they show appropriate behaviour, acknowledge it with praise. Simple affirmations like “Great job sharing!” reinforce positive actions.
- Distract your child: If they seem restless or upset, encourage them to play with something else or offer another toy. Distraction can redirect their focus effectively.
- Make it fun: Singing, telling a story or making funny faces can lighten the mood and make tasks feel less daunting.
- Be specific: Instead of saying “tidy up,” try saying “pick up the car.” Clear instructions help children understand what is expected of them.
- Use short phrases: Keep your communication simple. Phrases like “hitting hurts” or “hold my hand in the shops” are more effective than lengthy explanations.
- Model behaviour: Show your children how to do tasks and do them together. This not only teaches them but also fosters bonding.
- Keep instructions concise: Avoid lecturing. Good practice for all stages is to keep your directions short and to the point.
- Stay consistent: Focus on one or two behaviours at a time and be consistent in your responses. This helps reinforce the lessons you want your child to learn.
- Accept the stage: Acknowledge that this developmental stage comes with its challenges and that’s okay.
- Collaborate with your partner: Discuss strategies together before implementing them, ideally when your child is not around.
- Focus on discipline, not punishment: Aim for teaching rather than punishing. This fosters understanding and growth rather than fear.
By incorporating these strategies into your daily routine, you can create a more harmonious environment for both you and your child. Remember, parenting is a journey filled with learning opportunities. Embrace the ups and downs and always keep communication open. You’re not alone in this—many parents are navigating similar challenges!